What if burnout wasn’t the obstacle, but the clue? The conversation can initially feel unsettling. Then, clarifying and calming. Me: “Can I ask you something?” Client: “Yes, what?” Me: “When you say you’re burned out, what does that actually feel like for you?” Does it feel like…you’re tired before the
What we call longing is often the grief we still carry. Two photographs. A life frozen in time. Trevor and I sat on a bench with our coffees. Birds in the trees chirping. With a flat voice, he shared, “In my mid-twenties, getting my MBA, I journaled my dream. I wanted
“THANKS FOR NOTICING ME.” That’s how Eeyore announces his sadness in the timeless children’s book, Winnie the Pooh (A.A. Milne). That expression makes a whole difference. Let’s find out where you are on the map of sadness vs. depression. Sadness…tells its story out loud. Depression…waits quietly, hoping someone notices. If
Monitor these 10 signs for trusted outcomes. “Depression is never the enemy. It’s often the most honest voice in your life, asking to be heard.” — Dr. Ardeshir Mehran How can I tell if my depression is healing? I had carried this question for years. Not as a theory.
Why women’s pain lasts longer and gets missed, even by the women carrying it. “There’s nothing like a physical pain to keep your mind off your emotional pain.” — John E. Sarno, MD My therapy client was a female leader, successful, always composed She leaned forward and said: “Honestly, I’m
It’s not your mindset. Not strategy. It’s your nervous system. The Moment Everything Changes You are at the meeting. But not fully present. Jaw tightened. Chest closed. Breath goes shallow. Your voice gets flatter. You cannot quite track the discussion. You said the professional thing. But not your truth.
An embrace felt around the world. The New York Knicks’ superstar Jalen Brunson embraces his father, Rick, his mentor and the team’s assistant coach, after winning the championship game. Behind a quiet father is often a heart that watches, worries, and loves more than we knew. Did you see this
When Your Voice Becomes Dimmer, Your Life Becomes Smaller. Some painful experiences are so extreme that they rip you open and catapult you to change. For me, that happened years ago on a stage. In front of 200 executives. That day I froze on the stage. Could barely
Healing begins when you stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” [I wrote this blog for you. Or, listen to it in my just-released podcast.] The day you notice you’re no longer depressed, but pissed… everything changes. A question for you. Do you wake up in the mornings feeling
You can’t carry it for them. But you can carry it with them. Here’s how. You’re watching your partner’s face, who’s depressed… You remember the way she/he used to laugh. And now doesn’t. You wonder what to say. Whether to nudge. Whether to leave them alone. Whether you are
Are You Really Living? “I want to live, not merely survive And I won’t give up this dream Of life that keeps me alive.” Music: I’ve Got To Be Me, Sammy Davis Jr. Today marks the 3rd anniversary of the release of my book, “You Are Not Depressed. You
Inside a children’s book, Dr. Seuss gave us a map of depression. And we’ve been reading past it for years. I remember that night clearly. My son was small. Tucked in. The kind of small where they still smell like something sacred. I was reading him a bedtime