Dr. Ardeshir Mehran



Can you tell if your depression is healing?

Answering this question has been my obsession.

I remember how vulnerable I had felt years ago when I was going from one therapist to the next seeking help for treating my depression. After each session, I feltbetter. Yes, there were minimal concrete and enduring outcomes.That frustration stiffened my resolve, and I dedicated years of research and practice to change that scenario for others on the same healing path.

Since the release of my book, “You Are Not Depressed. You 

Are Un-Finished.” individuals worldwide have reached out, seeking answers and a reliable path for healing their depression. I feel honored to be of help and always respond.

A frequent question I am often asked is, “How can I tell if my depression is healing?” The following is the essence of my response.

First, fix the right problem.

We’ve been told that depression is the cause of our unhappiness.

Scientifically, that’s incorrect. The reverse is true. We are unhappy, therefore, we become depressed. Depression is the consequence, not the cause. The healing is accelerated when we pinpoint the sources of unhappiness and go from managing to leveraging depression.

Next, fix the problem right.

Depression indicates unfulfilled Emotional Rights. Fulfilling one’s Emotional Rights generates consequential and energizing outcomes, and depression begins to subside.

The following are some of the reliable indicators that your depression is thawing.


  1. Better boundaries—Clients often find it surprising and affirming that they begin to say “No” more often, pushing back, and setting limits.


  1. Better connections—As healing deepens, the true nature of one’s relationships comes into focus. A vulnerable process of forging better connections or ending others ensues.


  1. Energized body—Better digestion, deeper breathing, less chest pressure and racing heart, less itchy skin, better posture, better movements.


  1. Elations and expressions—Waves of emotional release; joy, playfulness, excitement, laughter, acting jovial.


  1. Intimacy and sex—Sensuality feels more reciprocal, joyful, playful, and nourishing.


  1. Letting go—Decluttering, cleansing, and changing style (e.g., hairstyle, clothing, furniture, car).


  1. Real and firm—Showing more authentic expressions, stronger voice projection, holding one’s ground, and being confident vs. playing nice, appeasing or pleasing.


  1. Pain release—Pain is suffering leaving the body. You notice cycles of “contraction and release,” leading to flow, ease, and expansion.


  1. Grieving and forgiving—Profound and gradual coming to terms with one’s hurt, broken heart, regrets, shame, guilt, and anger for not being seen, heard, held, protected, and loved.


  1. Less substitution—As healing takes root, substitutions lessen, such as substance abuse, distractions, social media, porn.


The changes are initially subtle and flickering and then gradually crystalize.

Back to you. Are you experiencing these shifts in your therapy? 


If you seek better, faster, and lasting outcomes, contact me for a no-commitment exploratory session. See my clients’ testimonials and endorsements.

Benefit from a five-session program uniquely tailored for you. Experience maximum tangible and accelerated change.

After 30 years of dedicated work, I am now the therapist that I wished I had years ago when I was struggling and wanted better outcomes.


BONUS: Recently, I was a podcast guest of the leading global consultancy, Heidrick & Struggles’ CEO and Board Practice. The podcast is: Mental Health and Wellness at the Top: Emotional Well-being, Peak Performance, and Leadership Impact. Have a listen.


With love and gratitude,

Dr. Ardeshir Mehran
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